You may have heard it said that ‘to err is human, to forgive is divine’.
It really is one of the hardest things that we will have to do in our lives, especially when we are faced with issues of abuse whether physical or sexual. You have to be a very strong person to forgive as it takes a lot determination and will. It can only be done in your time and nobody can force you, it is a slow process that takes a great deal of character.
It has to be your choice to forgive the perpetrator whether they have asked for forgiveness or not. If you are waiting for the perpetrator to apologise before you forgive them, then you may be waiting for a very long time. You will end up putting your life on hold, and that may very well be for the rest of it, because they may never say sorry. What’s in that word anyway? Sorry is just a word unless it is combined with a change course of conduct.
Forgiveness is a process, you can not be expected to forgive immediately, it is a bit like the grieving process. You need to take a journey to forgiveness. It is a journey of an emotional 'roller coaster' where you will go through and ride every emotion possible. But unlike a roller coaster which finishes where it starts, there is a destination to this journey and when you reach it you discover it is a place of peace with yourself and everyone around you. It can be a long, hard journey but it will be worth it in the end..
But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us. Roman 5:8.
Jesus did not wait until we asked for forgiveness before he died for us; he loved us so much that he was willing to die before we showed any repentance.
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